Release Date: July 23, 2012
Publisher: Kregel Publications
Genre: Christian Non-fiction
Buy It: Amazon
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports that 80 percent of childhood abuse victims later suffer from at least one abuse-induced psychological disorder. It's proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow women into adulthood. Yet few men are prepared to deal with those effects, even when their own wife is the one who is suffering. And their wife's suffering becomes their own suffering as their needs aren't being met by a wife who is powerless to control her inner turmoil.
Author, pastor, and survivor Dawn Scott Jones candidly shares her own abuse experience to help husbands understand the varied emotions, fears, distorted thoughts, and triggers that hold their wives captive. In practical and accessible language, Jones explains the stages of the healing journey (processing denial, asking for help, grieving, expressing anger, learning to forgive, and finding resolution). Building on that knowledge, Jones then moves to an honest discussion of what husbands can do to help. Whether it's creating a healing environment, understanding the need for control, building trust, or even just praying for healing, a husband plays an active role in helping his wife survive and thrive despite her past abuse.
Offering hope for a healthy marriage relationship, When a Woman You Love Was Abused answers the questions men have and offers the advice they need to help their wives finally find peace.
I would like to start with a disclaimer: I have never dealt with sexual abuse. However, I have dealt with verbal and emotional abuse. Reading this book, I was shocked at how many different reactions to abuse there can be, and how any abuse victim can be an exhibitor of the reaction. This book helped me to see what my reactions tend to be, and how I can chance those to keep from hurting others. If you know of anyone in your life who was affected by any abuse, definitely read this book!